Divorces are hard on everyone involved, which is why you need to make sure you put yourself first. Whether you're totally caught off-guard by the idea of getting a divorce or you're just upset that it's happening to you, your emotional and psychological health has to be taken care of.
During a divorce, there are lots of difficult decisions to make. There are things that could influence your decisions, too, like guilt or anger. That's why it's necessary for you to take steps to feel your best when you're handling divorce-related decisions.
How can you help yourself cope with divorce?
The first thing most people need to do is to sit down and realize that this is happening and that they need to regroup. This might mean going away for a weekend or just relaxing at home and allowing what's happening to sink in.
Then, find someone to talk to. Whether it's a parent or a neutral third party (like your therapist), talking to someone is a good way to get out feelings of being upset and angry without taking them out on your spouse.
Next, set aside specific days to work on the divorce. For instance, if you work through the week, it might be best if you set aside one day of the weekend to handle your divorce affairs, so you can focus on work the rest of the week without worrying about meetings or paperwork.
These are some tips to help you cope with divorce. Your attorney will guide you through the process, so you know what to expect every step of the way.