Regardless of how strong you believe your marriage to be, there will be days, weeks or even months during which the relationship may be tested. Although Illinois and other states make it fairly easy to get a divorce, it doesn’t mean that you should do so without giving serious thought to such a decision.
Take time to address your concerns
It is possible that your spouse has no idea that you are feeling angry or frustrated about the state of the relationship. Ideally, you will have an honest and open conversation about your feelings and what types of changes you feel may be necessary to overcome them. If your partner fails to listen to your grievances or work to make changes in an effort to improve the relationship, it may be time to consider ending the marriage.
Make sure to listen to what your spouse has to say
It is important that you give your husband or wife at least a few minutes of undivided attention per day. This will help to make that person feel as if his or her opinions are important to you. By actively listening, you may be able to spot problems in the relationship when they are still relatively easy to fix.
You shouldn’t have to feel as if you’re compromising your values
Although you will likely evolve as a person throughout the course of a marriage, you shouldn’t feel forced to make changes that you’re uncomfortable with. Furthermore, you shouldn’t feel as if you are a different person while around your spouse compared to who you are in private. If a spouse doesn’t accept you for who you are, it may be a strong indication that your marriage isn’t going to work.
It may be a good idea to hire an attorney prior to filing divorce papers. A legal adviser may be able to explain the process of ending a marriage as well as how to obtain alimony or other important resources.