It may seem like the kids just returned to school. However, Illinois parents know the holiday season will soon be upon us.
Whether you’re navigating the holidays for the first time since your divorce or you’ve been co-parenting for several years, here are some tips to keep in mind.
Start planning early
Discussing holiday plans well in advance is essential. Have a conversation with your co-parent to review holiday schedules, family gatherings and travel plans. Consider using a shared digital calendar or app that both parents can access and update. It’s smart to discuss and agree on issues such as holiday spending, gift-giving and time spent with extended family.
Be flexible
You and your ex should be willing to compromise on certain traditions or events. For example, it may involve alternating years where the children spend Christmas Eve and Christmas Day or splitting the day.
Create new traditions
Traditions are a big part of holiday celebrations. However, continuing with all the ones you previously enjoyed may be difficult. View this as an opportunity to create new traditions, such as a special holiday breakfast or having a game night.
Be positive
The holidays are likely difficult for your children as they attempt to navigate the new family dynamics. Avoid speaking negatively about their other parent in front of them and encourage them to enjoy their time with family.
Focus on your children
The holidays are a magical time for children. Their happiness should be the primary focus when making plans. Keep their best interests in mind and remember that this is a season of joy. Knowing they are loved and supported by both parents is critical for their well-being.
Navigating the holidays as co-parents will require effort. However, it also provides an opportunity to model communication and cooperation for your children. You are showing them that they are a priority in both your lives.
