Setting consistent expectations for a child’s screen usage between households can be challenging in co-parenting situations. As screens become an increasingly central part of daily life—whether for education, entertainment or communication—it’s important for divorced or separated parents to work together to create healthy, age-appropriate boundaries around screen time.
Children generally thrive on consistency. When rules vary dramatically between two homes, it can cause confusion, behavioral issues and tension between co-parents. One parent may have strict limits on gaming or social media, while the other may be more relaxed. Over time, this inconsistency can lead to conflict and, more importantly, can affect the child’s development and well-being.
Taking action
The first step is communication. Co-parents should have a candid discussion about screen time, including what types of content are appropriate, how much time per day or week is acceptable and which devices the child is allowed to use. This conversation should also cover the use of parental controls, online privacy and safety rules for social media and texting.
Where possible, it can be helpful to create a written screen time agreement or include guidelines in a parenting plan. This sets clear expectations and provides a reference point if disagreements arise. While it may not be legally binding, having a mutual understanding in writing can reduce confusion and help ensure both parents are on the same page. Any concerns that need to be legally binding should be outlined in a parenting plan or a modification to an existing parenting plan order.
It’s also important to remain flexible. Screen time needs may change depending on the child’s age, school requirements and social development. Parents should agree to revisit the conversation periodically and make adjustments as needed. Regular check-ins can help ensure that a child’s screen habits remain healthy and balanced.
